I read a while back on a blog post by Californian Mum about an absolutely endearing mummy & daughter day.  It was such a heartwarming tale, that I vowed then to never give up on me and Munch’s relationship.

You see Munch has always been a Daddy’s girl, which I was and still am.  However, it plagues me with all sorts of nasty feelings that she will grow up.  I wish there was a ‘how to have a great relationship with your daughter’ book.  I can follow instructions quite well, more so than follow my instincts.

Ever since the day Munch was born, I’ve questioned every little decision I’ve made.  Not just at the time, but I’m talking about real preemption kind of shit.  Over analysing everything I say and wondering what the consequences will be long term.  So needless to say every little sign of a Daddy’s girl has me feeling like a total failure already (god help me when she’s a teenager!)

I’m already preempting Munch reading this when she is older and thinking I’m a attention seeking mare.  Will it have an adverse effect?  I’m not looking for a reaction, it’s just an opening for a blog post for goodness sake!

Anyway, enough of the sweepings from the bottom of my brain.  So it’s with thanks to Californian Mum that I picked myself up and dusted myself down.  I’m not giving up without a fight!  This week saw my first fight.  Munch had a hospital appointment and I decided that we’d each make a day of it.

mummy & daughter day

We read Christmas books after breakfast, sat in every electric car in Toys R Us (before deeming that this was quite possibly the closest we’d come to owning a BMW X6).  We hit the Next Sale, then Mothercare, before finally nipping past the hospital (I mean nip).  The appointment took all of 5 minutes.  The surgeon said he didn’t need to see Munch again (yay!)

How do us girls celebrate?  Well we hit the mall and sit on the Peppa Pig ride, skip all the way down to Pizza Hut (ignoring the miserable glances from Carluccios enroute). We sang before hitting another Next sale (shout out for the bunny pants).

We finally came home and watched Toy Story 3 and played Mummy & Baby all afternoon, taking turns to read each other stories in her bed (Munch can’t read, but she did a good job from the pictures).

mummy & daughter day

So you see, even though we’re a full time working family who spend every second out of work as a three, I can still find the time to fight my demons and stick 2 fingers up to them.

PS Apologies for the quality of the pictures.  We were having too much fun to snap everything and what we did manage to snap, was thanks to the good old iphone!

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13 Comments

  1. Lovely post! Keep fighting those demons and I’m sure as Munch grown you’ll know that she has no favouritism, she doesn’t mind the things you do or say and at the end of the day she loves you, you’re her Mum! x

  2. Aww, it looks like you had a lovely day! I’m a bit of Daddy’s girl too, and always have been but I have a great relationship with my mum too. It is entirely possible to be a Daddy’s girl and love your mum just as much and by the sounds of this post Munch is doing exactly that x
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  3. I remember moments like this as a child. When it is just me and my mother and I have all the attention. Days that are few but is always special =) #mmwbh
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  4. Ahhh bless you what a beautiful time you both had together. Quality time is so important and its the little things that make them so happy and memorable too. Iphone photos are the best for outings like this. It makes them more enjoyable but still being in the moment. Just beautiful. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. I am sorry I haven’t commented in a few days I had no power. #sharewithme

  5. Sounds like a beautiful day. My eldest was always a daddy’s girl too. As a baby, she cried for him when she was poorly and I clearly remember a night where she had a cold and was up most of the night upset and ill. She screamed whenever I went near her and I was devastated. Over the years she always preferred daddy and we put it down to her seeing me more as he worked longer hours. Now, she is 9 and we have such a special relationship. My husband works away for most of the week and my eldest helps out so much with the younger ones. I am also 25 weeks pregnant and have suffered badly with HG this time- my eldest has been my absolute saviour. The older she gets, the more excited I am to spend time with her and I am so glad that I put in the effort when she was younger. Not that I would ever had done it any differently had she not been a daddy’s girl. Just wanted you to know that I understand x x x x
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    • Aw thank you for such a lovely comment 🙂 it’s nice to know I’m not the only one. It’s lovely to hear that your eldest has now become so close to you. X

  6. Good for you hun. It’s so important to grab these days while you can. I always felt like I couldn’t be a good mother as my own mother wasn’t very nurturing and never spent any time with me. Even now we have a strained relationship. I just never want my girl to feel like that. And even though now she’s seven and can be seriously stroppy, I try and make time so she knows how much our relationship means to me. xx

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