Having it all is something I’ve judged myself on for many years since we had children. First of all, nothing can prepare you for starting a family and all that comes with it. If anyone told me the drastic changes that lay ahead, I wouldn’t have believed them. Maybe it is just me, but I do look at my life pre children and it is like chalk and cheese. I was so organised… I didn’t need a notepad for meetings, I could remember it verbatim. The house was like a show house. I would deep clean it every other night (extreme much?!) I would give Monica Geller a run for her money. Then we had children.Continue reading
It’s the first of the month (how did that happen?!) and that means it’s time for another Bloggers’ Homes, the monthly interiors blog/vlog link up! I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to share your amazing homes related projects on here and on Instagram. Scroll to the bottom to find our who is the winner of July’s Bloggers’ Homes and will receive a £30 voucher for Rockett St George. You can also link up beow to be in with a chance of winning this month!
Each month we do a feature of a Blogger room.. Whether it’s a recent make over or just a gorgeous space and this month we have a rather stunning rustic country room from Neve (We The Parents). I’m sure you’ll agree it is a glorious space and has given me a few ideas about using greenery as finishing touches to our own kitchen…Continue reading
Ok, so whoever pushed fast forward on life, can they hit pause next! How can we be heading into August. The school holiday is almost over (for Scotland that is), I didn’t even get a chance to look for a family break, or do our summer project room. Time seems to progressively be speeding by faster and faster. It makes me ever more grateful that I push myself to capture our memories in this way, otherwise I’m pretty sure we would have years missing from our photo albums! Continue reading
If you follow me over on my social media or you tube, you will know all too well that I suffer with SPD related back pain. I mention it so frequently though (due to how much of an effect it has on my day to day life) that I thought it warranted a bit of an explanation.
My back pain first started through suffering with SPD when I was pregnant with Liv, but after I gave birth all returned to normal and I had no issues at all. However, I got SPD again when pregnant with MM and it’s been almost 2 years and I’m still in constant pain. I’m no doctor, but I know that it is related to the hormones relaxing the pelvic muscles. I should also say that typically SPD goes away after birth… That was not the case on this occassion. If you want to know more about how this effected the pregnancy… I filmed a video on that (below)
Initially I waited it out. I was prescribed a range of pain killers to get it under control, but nothing was touching the pain… These only seemed to cause dizzy symptoms and not much else. As you can imagine, having a newborn, recovering from a csection and having a 4 year old in tow… Day to day tasks were pretty difficult. It is the sort of pain that progressively gets worse throughout the day/week. So there are certain triggers that speed up that pain progression. Standing, sitting or walking for any longer than 10-15 minutes for example is a huge trigger, as is any lifting or bending. So that pretty much is everything… Showering, cooking, cleaning… To name but a few! I went from going about my daily life without considering the little things like movement, to having to really think it out and plan tasks in a strategic way that would minimise any immediate or future pain. It became really overwhelming and just so annoying and it was taking over all of our lives. As much as you adjust and get of with things, it meant having to rely on my eldest to pass me things from the floor at times. Poor hubs had to take on everything from bathing the kids, to putting them in the car… Anything that involved lifting and bending… Essentially all the chores. However, he travels quite a bit and so when he goes away, it’s a mission to get through the days. Just lifting the kids into the car and the bend to fasten the seat belt, makes me screw my face up thinking about it.
Living with back pain is such a silent drain… Not just on the person experiencing it, but those close by too. The strain was on those around me to help out and I wasn’t able to participate in things such as sports day races, nights out or bike rides with the kids. You adapt to suit and you always get by, but when you are avoiding tasks involving certain movements or systematically emptying the dishwasher in a way that requires the least amount of bends (at the age of 34)…. Well that is when enough is enough and I stood firm at the GP surgery and asked for a referral to see a back specialist.
After being thoroughly poked, prodded and pushed against walls by said specialist, they found that I had essentially changed the entire way I stand, walk, bend and move. This new way of moving had come about as a way to carry out tasks whilst I was recovering from my csection and still feeling SPD symptoms. I was putting way too much pressure on my upper back and neck and having a shocking posture anyway just made for a bit of a disaster all round.
The best news was that I should be able to get back to normal after some intensive physio work. I’ve been waiting on the referral since the start of the year, but as it is having such a dramtic effect on us all, I have started private sessions and 2 weeks in the results so far are remarkable. It’ll be a ong journey, but I’m feeling really positive that I can get back in the driving seat and that there is light at the end of this SPD tunnel for us. Fingers crossed everything will return to a relative normal and I can get a new lease of mummy life back.
So we are only 3 weeks in to our very first school summer holiday and I can honestly say it’s doing us all the world of good! I’m a rut lover, don’t get me wrong… and I have kept that in place as much as I can to keep the work side of life ticking over, but we just have the added benefit of having no after school commitments, no rushed meal times and no hurrying out the front door in the morning. It’s like our regular rut… Only better! Evenings can be spent getting outside and enjoying our surroundings. We are lucky to be in such a gorgeous part of the country. Sure we always moan about the weather… but the scenery is just breath-taking.
The girls are enjoying the extra time together and I can really appreciate the changes when we don’t have to rush so much. The last time Liv was around the house, MM was a totally different little person. She couldn’t really say anything or play with her Sister. Now however, they are chasing each other around and it is the most lovely thing being able to watch the start of a super cute bond between them.
Liv played that same long waiting game that we all play when a baby arrives. All that love, devotion and energy that goes into engaging with them and you’re lucky if you get a windy smile back. Well It’s paying off dividends for her now. MM is just obsessed with her and the house is full of little baby shouts for ‘iv!’. Thankfully the love is requited (and some!) as Liv just adores her and loves nothing more than helping her. She’s such a caring soul and she’s one of lives kind and gentle people. Their favourite thing to do of course is dress the same. Since MM was born we bought what we could that was remotely matching and Liv always request this. I’m sure that day will pass! But for now I’m enjoying the twinning between them.
One thing we have always struggled with when dressing the girls is the sizing. Liv especially is very tall for her age and has long legs. We are starting to find now that she is that bit older, going up to the next size for the length means that we are compromising the fit around the waist. This has meant that she is wearing jeans that are adjusted as tight as they can go and are all bunched up, saggy around the bum and having to try to disguise the unsightly and uncomfortable bunching with a belt. MM has the opposite problem. She is on the petite size and has short legs, but needs the waist size. So she is usually in trousers that fit but are way down past her feet.
Vertbaudet asked us to check out their Adaptable Fit range for both girls, a range of clothes designed for narrow, medium or wide hips. The range still has the adjustable wait band, but the fit is more tailored. So for Liv we went up a size, but took the narrow fit and for MM we went down a size and took the wide fit. The difference compared to a regular pair of high street jeans was remarkable. No bunching at all for Liv… In fact we could have got away with the medium fit I think, as we were on the loosest waist band (and I like to get longevity). MM was perfect too. She had the room she needed around her tummy and of course for her nappy and we didn’t have to roll up 5 times (thankfully that’s trendy anyway!).
The sizing too of course meant that we were able to get them a few matching items to wear over the summer! So keep a look out on our Instagram for plenty of twinning coming your way!
Disclosure: We were sent a selection of clothes from Vertbaudet to provide an honest review of the Adaptable Range.