If you follow me over on my social media or you tube, you will know all too well that I suffer with SPD related back pain. I mention it so frequently though (due to how much of an effect it has on my day to day life) that I thought it warranted a bit of an explanation.
My back pain first started through suffering with SPD when I was pregnant with Liv, but after I gave birth all returned to normal and I had no issues at all. However, I got SPD again when pregnant with MM and it’s been almost 2 years and I’m still in constant pain. I’m no doctor, but I know that it is related to the hormones relaxing the pelvic muscles. I should also say that typically SPD goes away after birth… That was not the case on this occassion. If you want to know more about how this effected the pregnancy… I filmed a video on that (below)
Initially I waited it out. I was prescribed a range of pain killers to get it under control, but nothing was touching the pain… These only seemed to cause dizzy symptoms and not much else. As you can imagine, having a newborn, recovering from a csection and having a 4 year old in tow… Day to day tasks were pretty difficult. It is the sort of pain that progressively gets worse throughout the day/week. So there are certain triggers that speed up that pain progression. Standing, sitting or walking for any longer than 10-15 minutes for example is a huge trigger, as is any lifting or bending. So that pretty much is everything… Showering, cooking, cleaning… To name but a few! I went from going about my daily life without considering the little things like movement, to having to really think it out and plan tasks in a strategic way that would minimise any immediate or future pain. It became really overwhelming and just so annoying and it was taking over all of our lives. As much as you adjust and get of with things, it meant having to rely on my eldest to pass me things from the floor at times. Poor hubs had to take on everything from bathing the kids, to putting them in the car… Anything that involved lifting and bending… Essentially all the chores. However, he travels quite a bit and so when he goes away, it’s a mission to get through the days. Just lifting the kids into the car and the bend to fasten the seat belt, makes me screw my face up thinking about it.
Living with back pain is such a silent drain… Not just on the person experiencing it, but those close by too. The strain was on those around me to help out and I wasn’t able to participate in things such as sports day races, nights out or bike rides with the kids. You adapt to suit and you always get by, but when you are avoiding tasks involving certain movements or systematically emptying the dishwasher in a way that requires the least amount of bends (at the age of 34)…. Well that is when enough is enough and I stood firm at the GP surgery and asked for a referral to see a back specialist.
After being thoroughly poked, prodded and pushed against walls by said specialist, they found that I had essentially changed the entire way I stand, walk, bend and move. This new way of moving had come about as a way to carry out tasks whilst I was recovering from my csection and still feeling SPD symptoms. I was putting way too much pressure on my upper back and neck and having a shocking posture anyway just made for a bit of a disaster all round.
The best news was that I should be able to get back to normal after some intensive physio work. I’ve been waiting on the referral since the start of the year, but as it is having such a dramtic effect on us all, I have started private sessions and 2 weeks in the results so far are remarkable. It’ll be a ong journey, but I’m feeling really positive that I can get back in the driving seat and that there is light at the end of this SPD tunnel for us. Fingers crossed everything will return to a relative normal and I can get a new lease of mummy life back.